… OF A SERVANT!
I hear about crappy relationships all the time. That descriptor is acceptable too – crappy. I hear of guys spending their tip money on the strip club and complaining that their girl or wife or “old lady” gets upset. I hear of guys spending their time at the bar and complaining that their “old lady” is upset that she isn’t getting attention. It’s all around us. And I’m not suggesting I’m the perfect example but I do have a thought or two on how you can stop giving me and other guys a bad name.
You need to serve. And serving can be fleshed out best in one position – on your knees.
1) You need to be on your knees submitted to your Creator and in prayer for your girlfriend, wife or “old lady.” Dude, I don’t care if you’re Christian or not, you need to be seeking higher wisdom and authority on how to serve and love your significant other. Call the Dalai Lama if you have his number, ask the Pope, I don’t care. You just need to be looking UP from a position of submission. It’s only from that submission point and recognition of your limitations that your Creator, GOD, can rock your world and your relationship. And dude, if your sex life sucks it’s because you’re not doing this.
2) You need to be on your knees in practical, tangible, measurable serving. This entire blog entry came to me 8 minutes ago as I was on my knees behind the toilet wiping the floors of the bathroom. My wife does not “wear the pants” and I’m not some dictator either. However, one thing I had amazing examples of (dad, grandfather, brother) is serving your wife.
LISTEN, I know some of you have “arrangements” that “she does the floors and [you] do the oil change.” I don’t care. Shock the world and elevate your game by doing both one day. Jesus set the example about doing the lowly things and the things are “aren’t his job.” He knows more than you do.
“It’s not my job. We have an arrangement.” - Jesus had an arrangement too. He’d create you and give you paradise and you’d pay attention. Well, someone (all of us) screwed that up. It wasn’t His arrangement to wash your feet but He assumed the position and showed one of the best exhibitions of His ultimate authority. Voluntary service and submission are far more powerful than election or assumption of authority. And more sexy. Your wife will agree, try it. She can look past your hairy ears and fat gut when you’ve got a mop in your hand.
“I’m not good at that.” – Put your pants’ zipper in the front and man up. Learn to clean and be excellent in all you do – from the floors to the ceilings, from the bathroom to the garage.
“I’m too important or too busy.” – Hey busy guy, perhaps a business/real world example will help. You won’t hire people without experience sometimes, right? You want a guy who shows loyalty to your company, who works hard even in the small things, moves his way up the ladder by diligence and excellence, and someone who never says “that’s not my job.” Initiative goes a long way with you. Yeah, your wife, girlfriend or old lady are far more important and infinitely sexier than your “company.” Reel in some perspective and watch how this kind of service elevates the service of your company.
I’m not an expert. And you’re not either. The faster you realize that and seek to serve, the better off you’ll be.
And as Lavar Burton used to tell me, “But don’t take my word for it.”
